Domestic abuse (also called domestic violence) is violent behaviour of any type within a family or relationship. It can be physical, emotional, sexual or financial. Abuse in relationships is not something that happens once. It’s a cycle, and usually gets worse if nothing is done to stop it.
Some warning signs of abuse are:
- Pushing, hitting or kicking
- Threats of violence
- Constant put-downs
- Jealousy, constantly checking where someone is, or controlling who they see
- Forcing someone to take part in sexual acts when they don’t want to
- Controlling what someone spends their money on, or taking their money away from them
People use domestic abuse as a way of controlling and intimidating the people closest to them. It can happen to anyone, male or female at any age, including people in same sex relationships. If someone in your family is abusive it’s not your fault - you are not to blame for what’s going on. Everyone has the right to be and feel safe in their own home.
If you’re being abused or are concerned about a friend, there are things you can do to help the situation. Don’t try to confront the abuser, as this could put you in further danger. Talk to someone you trust, such as friends or family, Youth Worker or School Counsellor. There are also help lines you could call for advice.
Try to keep useful numbers to hand in case you need them. If you or anyone else is in danger call the Police on 999. They take this sort of crime seriously and will act quickly.
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