How you can help

• Don’t wait to be told about the situation, try to bring the subject up when the abusive partner isn’t around
• Approach the issue in a sensitive and caring way, ‘I am worried about you because……’
• Let them know that you are concerned and want to support and help them
• Believe what they tell you
• Do not be judgemental or expect them to make a sudden decision
• Take the abuse seriously.  Abuse and fear of violence can be very damaging, both physically and emotionally.  It is very destructive to a person’s self-confidence and self-esteem.
• The importance of breaking the silence and ending the isolation someone feels cannot be underestimated. Always listen to what they say.
• Remember that supporting someone is a challenge. They may not make decisions that you feel are right - they may choose to stay with the abusive partner.