Helping Someone

If you think a family member, friend or work colleague is suffering domestic abuse, there are things that you can do to help.

Friends and family members may believe that they should remain ‘neutral’, in a domestic abuse situation, but the abused person can see this as them ignoring the abuse. The abuser can see it as evidence that their behaviour is acceptable. It also important to recognise that any children within the family, may be witnessing the abuse or may be directly involved. Children should never be placed at risk, and their needs and safety should never be ignored.

Hide page promo

Important:

  • Do not blame or ask judgemental questions such as ‘What did you do .....’ or ‘Why don’t you just leave...’
  • Don’t be impatient or critical. They may feel very confused about their emotions and frightened of taking the first step.
  • Do not maintain a friendship with both the victim and abuser. You cannot support both parties.
  • Always remember that the most dangerous time, is when a person leaves, or has recently left, a violent and abusive partner.
  • Never give up on a person – you might be a lifeline
  • Never put yourself at risk
  • National Domestic Violence Helpline

    If you feel that you are experiencing domestic abuse and need help, support or advice, there are numbers that you can call in confidence. If you are not sure who to call locally, then the national helpline will provide you with a local number to call - 0808 2000 247

    Did you find what you were looking for?

    Please give us your name, email address and any comments you have.

    Last updated: 9 December 2009

    Bookmark with:

    What are these?